There’s an unwritten rule in our society that once your firstborn turns 2 years old, it’s time to make another one.
It’s expected. It’s normal.
So normal that when I say I’m ‘One and Done,’ it’s often met with intrusive questions and numerous reasons why I should change my mind.
Despite decades of research debunking the myths of the spoilt, selfish only child, the stigma is very much alive.
This lingering opinion that only children are somehow flawed has been passed down through generations, originating from an inadequate and bias report by early Child Psychologist G. …
You expect me to bounce back to my pre-baby self? Well, that person is long gone.
When I birthed my little human, I unexpectedly birthed a new Me — and I don’t quite know what that means or how I feel about it yet.
My body will never be the same no matter how much I exercise, so stop rushing me back to the gym. Pregnancy is 9 months of growing and stretching to a size I never thought possible, and now my baby has left this vessel, it needs time to heal.
And let’s not talk about…
Parents are obsessed with teaching their children how to share.
Spend just five minutes in a playground, and you’ll see a power struggle between two children while their parents apologise profusely at each other.
Parents fear if they don’t teach and remind their children to share, they will become selfish, stingy outcasts.
They fear judgement from other parents, that they’ll be seen as inconsiderate and indulging their child.
But toddlers aren’t selfish if they don’t want to share; they’re just toddlers.
You see, I understand that my son doesn’t have the cognitive maturity to view the world the way adults…
People lose their minds when I tell them I still breastfeed my toddler to sleep. You can see it in their (not so subtle) facial expressions and the awkwardness of not knowing how to respond to something so left field.
We’ve heard it all before — rocking, cuddling, feeding and singing your baby to sleep will create bad habits and more problems in the future.
Heaven forbid, my child may never be able to fall asleep on his own!
Well, preachers of this mantra can stick that rod where the sun don’t shine because it’s complete bullsh*t.
Breastfeeding my toddler…
Tonight, thousands of babies will cry themselves to sleep.
Not just abandoned or neglected infants, but those who are part of a loving home, with parents who adore them and will do anything to keep them healthy and safe.
These parents are under the illusion they are teaching their baby how to sleep. That leaving their newborn to cry alone in a room is a necessary part of parenting and the only way they will be able to get more sleep themselves.
These parents are under the assumption that a baby waking at night is a ‘problem’, that they need…